Wedding Learnings from 2025
Nicolai and I went to 4 weddings together this year, before our own wedding in September (and we have another one over NYE!)
Here’s what I learned.
All weddings are vastly different. Yes, they all have the same elements - a ceremony with vows, followed by a group dinner and dessert, some speeches, and dancing. The pieces are the same, but the details are what make or break a wedding and what showcase who the couple is together and what matters to them the most.
The weddings we went to this year were in
At an elegant mansion in a cosmopolitan district in Tokyo
In summer camp cabins in a tiny coastal town 4 hours south of SF
At a lush outdoor garden in the north LA suburbs
On top of a mountain ski resort in western Idaho
They all had vows, dinner, speeches, and dancing. But as you can glean just from their locations, each wedding was entirely unique and a testament to the identities of the couples that hosted them. The friends that got married this year are from different chapters of our lives and deeply close to us in different ways. It was so beautiful and interesting to see their take on what a wedding is and to note what was most important to them.
What doesn’t matter (to me).
Decor and table scape (can’t remember what the tables looked like at any of the venues)
The order of dances or even if you have them (first dance, father daughter, etc)
What does matter to me
Being fed at appropriate times
Being considerate of how long it takes to get from point to point
Considering the weather